As a business and life coach, I have found that the biggest
barrier to success is an internal barrier that stops many
people from moving forward. This internal barrier affects
all areas of life, from business and making money, to
having successful and fulfilling personal relationships,
and living a healthy balanced lifestyle. Whatever the goal
for a person, forward progress is essential in order to
reach these goals. Without forward movement, stagnation
occurs. By choosing stagnation instead of forward
movement, the person is ultimately choosing backward
movement - this backward movement caused by losing time and
momentum toward chosen goals. This internal barrier must
be addressed in order to assure that results are achieved.
So, why do people get stopped from taking action and from
moving forward toward their goals? The answer is quite
easy. It all comes down to FEAR. When people stop, they
are inwardly fearful of something. Perhaps it is a fear of
looking bad to others, not knowing what will happen next,
not being clear on choices, or perhaps there are questions
about safety or overall health and happiness. Whatever the
reason for the fear, fear itself can be paralyzing.
A wise man once told me something that I recite to myself
each and every time I feel fear - "Fear doesn't mean stop,
it means pay attention." When I feel fear, I do stop
momentarily to pay attention to the cause. What am I
afraid of? It is this awareness and the next steps that I
take that help keep me in action despite the fear. Follow
the Acronym F.E.A.R., and you too will be able to feel the
fear and move forward at the same time.
F - Formulate a Plan. When you feel fear pay attention to
the cause of the fear. Fear is there to keep you safe. It
is your subconscious mind letting you know that there may
be a danger. Don't ignore it. Instead, find out the cause
of the fear and determine what you can do about it.
Formulate a plan to keep you safe and to make you
successful. What needs to show up so that you can
guarantee that this fear will NOT be realized? What needs
to show up so that you can and will be successful?
E - Examine All Options. What choices do you have? Will
these choices keep you safe, get you positive results,
and/or help you move forward with little or no consequence?
When you know all of your choices, you can choose the best
choice possible based on the circumstances you are
encountering.
A - Assess Your Safety. Ask yourself if you have done
everything within your power to keep you safe. When you
have a plan and know your options, you can assess if you
are going to be safe or will you still be in danger.
R - Respond Accordingly. If your plan will keep you safe,
then you can stay in action by feeling the fear and doing
it anyway - knowing you have controlled everything you
can. If your plan does not prevent you from staying safe,
you can take a calculated risk or change your goal. There
are times when fear is legitimate. Listen to your gut as
it attempts to keep you safe. There are times when it is
appropriate to make new decisions and there are also times
when you will be safe and you need to simply feel the fear
and move forward anyway.
Fear is a real motivator and ultimately it can lead to
success or failure. So, pay attention to it. Stop
ignoring the fear. Pay attention to it, understand it, and
believe that fear does not need to be a motivator to stop
action. By understanding why people feel fear and then
what to do to move past it, you have a new success tool
that will help you and the people you help to keep in
action and get results. So the next time you feel fear,
follow the steps above and move through the fear to get the
results you now want.
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Shelley Herzog is co-author of How to Coach A Fish: 12
Weeks of Incredible Coaching. Known as the Wealthy Coach,
she helps life & business coaches create lucrative coaching
practices quickly & easily. For more information, go to
http://www.TheWealthyCoach.com .
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