The true measure of money in your business.
Shiny new cars. Big mansions. The good life. Even if you're
not a particularly material person, it's easy to be caught
by those images, and to wonder: "Why don't I have that? Is
there something wrong with me?"
It's become especially popular to equate material wealth
with spiritual attainment. "If you do good, and if you
think abundantly, then the untold riches of the universe
will pour forth for you. If you stew yourself in despair
and complaint, then forget it. You get nothing."
Is it true? And if it's not true, then how come you don't
have what all those rich, successful people have? Could it
possibly have maybe a smidgeon of truth in it?
A Tale of Two Clients
Client #1: A very successful guy, in advertising sales. He
was the top earner, and excellent at it. And yet,
underneath it all, he had a fear running him.
Despite having earnings in the mid six-figures US$, he
never felt like he had enough. You couldn't call him
greedy- he had a sincere heart. He was just scared witless
that he wasn't going to be okay.
Taking the time to look at it from a heart-level, he
realized that he was carrying fears from his childhood.
After bringing love and healing to that part of himself
(ah, the wonders of spiritual healing!), he saw something
really clearly:
The 'success' he had was keeping him from his family. He
opted for less money, and more family time, and found a
great deal of love and happiness.
Client #2 was different.
She was struggling and struggling just to make ends meet.
Although clients loved her, she had very few of them, and
money just wasn't coming in. She was exhausted, burnt-out,
and very near to despair.
Another dose of spiritual healing, compassion, mercy and
strength, and she had her own insight. She saw that she was
blocking out both love and money, because they were tangled
together in her mind around issues with intimacy. When she
invited love in, more money came in, and she began to do
quite well for herself.
Why is money so unpredictable? Is more or less better for
me?
Love can be found anywhere: in the poorest, most
despair-ridden parts of the world, and in the richest, most
heedless environments.
It's just that these situations distract us from seeing the
Love around us. In fact, abundant wealth is more dangerous
in this regard than miserable poverty. When one has
nothing, in some ways it's easier to turn to the more
profound qualities of life, like Love and Compassion.
This tendency is from whence comes the mistaken idea that
physical poverty is somehow holier than having physical
wealth. It's also fueled a backlash of belief that physical
wealth is a sign of being spiritually advanced.
Neither is true. The physical world is only a vehicle for
deeper Divine truths. Anything in the physical world can
carry Love and Mercy. Attaining wealth doesn't mean you
have one whit of spiritual advancement, and lacking wealth
doesn't mean you are poor in spirit.
The trick is: can you find love, truly feel real Divine
love in your heart, for richer or poorer? Of course, being
able to do this in truly extreme circumstances is the sign
of a saint- and if that's you, I'll be your best friend. ;)
But, hey, I just want to make ends meet.
Here's the Sufi spiritual teaching: everything in this
world is a mirror of the Divine. Money is NOT a
measurement, it's a part of that mirror.
Your business can make ends meet. But, if you're struggling
with money, no matter how much or how little you have, then
stop for a minute trying to get more of it. I know it's
scary, but to discover the truth, you need to look in the
mirror that is your money situation.
What is being reflected back to you? Keep reading.
Keys to Looking in the Money Mirror
• Get honest.
Instead of trying to change your money situation, take a
breath and really look at it. What's really going on? How
much money do you have? How much is coming in? How much is
going out?
Even if it's scary -- and it's legitimate to feel scared
whether you have big credit card debt, or if you have money
in the bank -- really take some time to notice how do you
feel about your money situation?
Resentful? Angry? Sad? Despairing? If you were talking
about a good friend of yours, instead of money, how would
you be talking to that friend from your current attitude
towards money?
• Ask about it.
When we don't like a situation, we make assumptions about
it. "This situation sucks." "Something isn't right." But...
what if your assumptions were wrong? What if, no matter how
painful the situation, there still might be love present?
In your heart, begin to ask to see a deeper a truth. Take
time with this. You probably won't get the deepest, most
truthful answer in the first minute, or even in the first
five.
Do NOT ask about how to get more money, or why you don't
have enough money. Those questions contain the assumption
that something is not right about the current situation,
and will block you from seeing a deeper truth.
You might need a buddy to sit with you. I've found that
when I've worked with clients in the Heart of Money
Transformational Journey exercises, the issues that come up
have so much emotion in them, that it's helpful to have a
friend sitting with you, not saying anything, just making
space for what is.
• Be willing to be surprised.
If the answer you get is one you already know, or if you
still have even a twinge of resentment or upset still, then
it's probably not an answer from your heart. Instead, your
mind is making up stories trying to protect you from what
it thinks might be the painful truth.
Be courageous, and be willing to be surprised. Keep asking
in your heart, with a sincerity and desire to know the
truth: "What is this situation showing me about the Divine
and money?"
An answer that has truth in it, will bring relief and love
to your heart, even if the situation hasn't changed at
all... yet.
• Work on your business.
It's now possible to be more effective in your business,
once you are no longer resisting/fighting your money
situation. And that in turn will help your business develop
and be more profitable.
Having money or not having money is no measure in any sense
of spiritual attainment. However, finding love and
compassion in your current money situation will release
blocked inspiration, which you can then put to good use
here on earth, nourishing your business and your clients.
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Mark Silver is the author of Unveiling the Heart of Your
Business: How Money, Marketing and Sales can Deepen Your
Heart, Heal the World, and Still Add to Your Bottom Line.
He has helped hundreds of small business owners around the
globe succeed in business without lousing their hearts. Get
three free chapters of the book online:
http://www.heartofbusiness.com