We all think the enemy is somewhere out there, that some
person, force or nation is out to harm us in some way.
Rather than live a life focused upon what they want, many
people's lives center around protecting themselves from
their enemies, devising strategies to beat them. However,
enemies consume time, attention, resources, well-being and
happiness in life itself. And the odd thing about enemies
is that even when we defeat one, ten more seem to
immediately appear. Even when they think they are winning
over their enemies, they are losing a life of freedom,
health and good will.
How To Get Rid Of Enemies Easily
The smartest, simplest and easiest way to get rid of your
enemy is to turn him/her into a friend. It actually takes
only a moment to do this. Stop for a moment and ask
yourself, who decided this person or situation is my enemy?
You did. Now you can turn that decision around and decide
the person is a friend. You can decide to become a friend
to that person, (or to that situation or condition), to
stop fighting and respond with kindness and care. You can
choose to see other aspects of that person, which are not
in opposition to you. Once you step out of the dance they
are doing, how can they hurt you?
The True Enemy In Your Life
The next step would be to take a deep breath and realize
where the true enemy is hiding. What exactly is it that is
keeping you in constant turmoil? This is the moment to
realize that your true enemy is within. It is your very own
hatred, anger, fear and upset. The true enemy is the
propensity we have for projecting our anger and fear
outside into the world, for pinning it on people and
situations and then battling with them. It is extremely
disempowering to project your darkness upon someone else.
It gives the other person power over you. Until we stop
this, more and more enemies will keep appearing.
Ultimately, they are the creations of our own mind and
heart.
Below are some steps to take, to live a life free of
enemies. Try them and see how easy and enjoyable they
really are.
Step 1: Make Friends With Your Enemy
Allow yourself a moment of willingness to consider the
possibility that your enemy wants the same things in life
and is, most likely, just as afraid of you as you are of
them.
A)Say to yourself - "Like me, my enemy wants to be happy
and safe. Like me, me, my enemy has suffered and wants to
be free of pain. Like me, my enemy is lonely. Like me, my
enemy will one day face loss and death."
Step 2: Who Is Your Enemy
A) Make a list of those people (or situations) you feel are
your enemies.(You may be astonished to note that even those
you love are fearful to you).
B) Write down three valuable qualities this enemy has.
C) Write down three ways you have gained from knowing them.
D)Write down what is needed for you to see them as a friend.
Step 3: Reclaiming Your Power .
A) Upon whom have you projected most negativity?
B) What about this person is so unacceptable?
C) Can you see these qualities in yourself as well?
D) For just a moment, can you accept these qualities in
yourself? (This doesn't mean act upon them, just accept
them for what they are now).
Step 4: Turn It Around
A) Offer your enemy the gift of respect.
B) Offer your enemy the gift of really listening and
knowing them.
C) Stop judging your enemy. Let them be who they are.
D) Give your enemy what they want and need. Just one time.
E) Do it again now.
F) Notice how wonderful it feels.
G) Take time to notice how it feels to live in a world of
friends?
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