While there are several definitions NLP or other philosophy
would give to the word "leader", you need to ask yourself
the following questions if you want to become a good
leader: What makes a leader a good leader? What qualifies
a person to lead? What enables a person to exercise
persuasion and influence with others? If a company wants
leaders who lead from the company vision, what will be the
prerequisites of leadership?
Write down these questions and the possible answers you can
come up with. I'd like to suggest 3 qualities that you need
to have to create win-win situations, lead from the heart
and influence people with integrity.
1. Authenticity: This is the degree to which you are true
to your own personality, spirit, or character, in spite of
the pressures. It is acting and being from one's true self
without any masks or personas. So two simple questions to
ask yourself: first, "Do I wear any mask when I'm at work?"
People wear masks for 2 main reasons: to protect themselves
or to become someone they are not in a day-to-day life.
People wear masks all the time: at church, in the car, in
social meetings. If you think you wear masks, ask yourself:
what am I afraid of? The next question is "On a scale from
1 to 10, 1 being the lowest, how true am I when I deal with
people I work with?"
2. Integrity: When you act with integrity, you act
consistently through principles. You act and react
according to your own criteria, or principles, and not
according to your emotions alone. You can say you have
integrity when everything you do and believe is based on
the same core set of values. While those values may change,
it is their consistency with each other and with your
actions that determine your integrity. Simply put, it is
being as good as your word, impeccably honest and
fair-minded. The next question is "On a scale from 1 to 10,
1 being the lowest, how honest am I when I deal with people
I work with?"
3. Congruency: Congruency is perceived by others as
sincerity or certainty. When you are congruent, internally
and externally, you say what you mean, you walk your talk.
An alternative definition of congruence in the work of
Virginia Satir, family therapist and one of the sources of
NLP, is the balance between self, other and the context
you're in. In other words, congruency is applying your
principles to yourself so that you can say that you walk
the talk.
Authenticity, integrity and congruency are essential
qualities of a good leader. The next question is "On a
scale from 1 to 10, 1 being the lowest, how true, honest
and congruent am I when I deal with people I work with?"
and act accordingly.
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