Goals. We've all set them. We all know the sting of defeat
when we don't reach them. So why do we sometimes fail to
reach our most cherished goals? Are we missing something
here?
Yes, we are. The number one reason goals fail is because we
start out by identifying our goals. You heard me.
Determining what our goals are is actually the second step
we should take. The second, not the first step. There is an
all-important "step number one" that we often leave out.
Because of this, our goals start off on shaky ground with
no foundation for success upon which to build.
What is this all-important first step?
Five Steps to Align Yourself with Success
1. Know who you are and what your purpose is.
Who hasn't wondered who they really are and why they are
here? Behind every story of sustained long-term success is
someone who knows the answers to these two questions:
* Who are you?
* What is your purpose?
Success is generated from the inner place of knowing that
what you want will manifest. For that to happen, you must
know who you are and what your purpose is. If you don't,
then you may reach your goal and not be able to sustain it.
2. Determine your goal.
This step is the first one in most manuals about how to set
goals. That's been the problem: the cart has been placed
before the horse. Set your goals only after you know the
answers to step one, and you will be in a much better place
to determine what goals you want. Not what other people
want for you. What you want.
* Struggle = Setting goals without knowing who you are and
what your purpose is.
3. Affirm it as a done deal.
Affirmations keep you mentally aligned with what you want
and who you are. Say your affirmations in the present
tense, and say them as if you know they will come to pass.
This is the key to saying affirmations correctly.
* Delusion = Affirmation without aligned action.
4. Take aligned action.
Actions keep you moving forward. In order for you to be
successful, you will need to take actions that are directly
aligned with your goal. If you don't, you will experience
frustration; the number one reason people throw in the
towel and give up.
* Frustration = Action without alignment.
5. Expect and allow it to come to you.
If step one is the step most often bypassed, then step five
is the step most often ignored. However, don't ignore this
step! It is not an active action step; it is a state of
being. Expecting and allowing something to occur is the
opposite of going out and getting it. Being in a state of
expectancy and allowing means you actually know your goal
will manifest.
* Stuck = Not taking aligned action because you don't
believe it's possible.
Coup de Grâce
How many times have you said to yourself, "I'm setting this
as my goal, but I have no idea how I'll ever reach it"?
Most of us have. The problem is that inherent in this
statement is the belief that you can't manifest your goal,
and that, even if you do, you won't be able to sustain it.
With this kind of belief system in place, you will fail.
This is why it's nice to know you have a coup de grâce
in your back pocket that you can wield at a moment's notice.
"Coup de grâce" is an expression that means: a
deathblow intended to end suffering. Sound rather extreme
for the topic of success? Not if you've repeatedly failed
at reaching and sustaining your goals. In order for
successful goal manifestation to occur, you will need to
deliver a firm and decisive deathblow to the dreaded
"but... how" statements you're telling yourself. Whenever
you hear yourself say or think a "but... how" statement, do
these two things:
* Immediately stop what you are saying.
* Counter by taking an aligned action toward your goal.
We've all struggled with how to manifest and sustain
long-term success. Well, struggle no more. Know who you are
and what your purpose is. Only then will you be able to
move past the fear and desperation that thwarts long-term
success and into a place of inner strength and confidence
that sustains it. And by diligently applying the coup de
grâce, you will be able to manifest your goals
successfully, each and every time.
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Dr. Susan L. Reid is a business coach and consultant for
entrepreneurial women starting up businesses. She is the
author of Discovering Your Inner Samurai: The
Entrepreneurial Woman's Journey to Business Success. Susan
provides intuitive small business solutions, powerful
attraction marketing tools, inspiration, and direction.
Visit http://www.SuccessfulSmallBizOwners.com and download
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