"Choice begins the moment you disidentify from the mind and
its conditioned patterns, the moment you become present."
- Eckhart Tolle, Author of The Power of Now
We live in a world of limitless change. I still remember
when we got our first color TV, how thrilled we were to be
watching movies in our own home in living color. I am an
amateur photographer who has come happily bounding into the
new age of digital photography. Using a film camera is no
longer an option for me. I just can't wait to have film
developed to see my creations.
All of the changes can make us feel like we are out of
control. Our lives keep moving along day-to-day and
"stuff" happens - whether we want it to or not... It would
seem all this talk about creating your own reality is just
that, "talk". But when I look back over my life, I can see
that most of what I've wanted has come to pass.
* I live in the mountains.
* I work out of my beautiful, new home.
* I'm self employed. No boss to control what I do and when
I do it.
* I have a wonderful marriage that many people would envy.
* All of my family is healthy and happy - all three
children and eight grandchildren.
I remember years ago sitting in my office at AT&T dreaming
about working at home and being free. I never could have
foreseen how it would all come to pass - but it did. Maybe
we do have control over our lives!
This is what I've learned from my journey through life, so
far.
Whatever you want your life to look like - own it. If you
own it and believe in it, you will most likely be living it
- eventually. How far away is eventually? That depends on
how willing you are to own what you want and use the
universal principles that bring it into your life faster -
front and center.
Your power to live the life you want is positioned, ready,
and waiting to be fully utilized; and no one else can use
that power, just you. But there's one catch. You have to
let go of the notion that someone else has control of your
destiny. No one - not your boss, your mother, your spouse,
your friends, your advisors - no one but you can steer your
life towards your dreams and goals.
So, own it. Own your life. Whatever you are going through
- own it and be the best you can be throughout the
experience. Others will see you and be motivated by your
shining example to take control of the steering wheel of
your life.
While you're in the process of learning how to own your
life, it helps to let go of your preconceived notions about
how the details of your life should turn out. Letting go
does not mean you're giving up control. Instead it means
you're taking control.
When you own your life, you refuse to give your power away
to outside influences. You're living life based on your
inner knowing, which points you to what serves you best in
all circumstances. You're learning to listen to you.
Some may call this a selfish way of living. I call it
living by your soul's navigation. If we all lived by our
soul's navigation, there would be no need for condemnation,
criticism, judgment, or fear, because your soul is your
connection to the only Source who knows the bigger picture,
the higher perspective of all of life.
As we learn to claim our power, we also learn to release
unrealistic expectations that we have for others. We gift
them with our trust and unconditional love and caring -
just as they are. There is no longer a need to try to
control other's lives so that they can fulfill our own.
What a glorious life of unlimited possibilities it would be
if we all lived by our soul's navigation, allowing
ourselves and all others to be the best of who we are, and
who we are yet to be.
Here are 3 steps to guide you as you learn to own your life.
1. Get clear on what you value. What's most important to
you?
2. Decide what you're willing to give up to own what you
value.
3. Decide what you're willing to do to bring what you value
more fully into your life.
When you get clear on these 3 steps and own them, with
integrity, you will be well on your way to creating the
life you want. Not in 1 year, 5 years, or 10 years - but
now.
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Sandy Reed, Certified Life Coach and small business owner,
provides personal coaching, teleclasses, tools and
resources designed to assist soulpreneurs in preparing for
life transitions. She publishes a free bi-monthly ezine,
"Find Your Power, Love Your Life..." Visit her website
http://www.innerclaritylifecoaching.com for more
information and to sign-up for her free introductory
eCoaching Program.
