One of the books I use in my classes is titled: "Riding the
wave of culture". My students gain a much better
appreciation for the differences they encounter when being
exposed to a different culture. I strongly believe that
awareness of a circumstance is more then 50% of the
solution. When talking about different cultures, that is
also true. In this case, awareness allows you to behave
better, avoid foolish things and adjust your expectation to
what the culture you are dealing with dictates. What we
will be talking about is the term "trust". I did some
research and found the following: In the social sciences,
the subtleties of trust are a subject of ongoing research.
In sociology the degree to which one party trusts another
is a measure of belief in the honesty, benevolence and
competence of the other party. Based on the most recent
research, a failure in trust may be forgiven more easily if
it is interpreted as a failure of competence rather than a
lack of benevolence or honesty. You can exchange competence
for skill or knowledge in most cases. Only if it can be
shown that you knew about something and still didn't use
your knowledge, would trust be at least as much violated,
if not more, because it goes to honesty in such a case. Now
that we have an idea what trust really means, let's look
some stories a friend of mine send me in an email regarding
the impact of trust on developing and keeping your business:
He writes: "Over the past few days, I've had a chance to
see just how skeptical people can be and how seemingly
little things will cause people--especially new people --to
question doing business with us.
It was quite eye-opening and bears some contemplation--for
us. The first experience was a phone conversation with a
subscriber. He was inquiring about one of our programs and
it gave us a chance to get to know each other a little.
He mentioned that he was feeling better about our company
after speaking with me. When I asked why he hadn't before,
he mentioned a Tele-seminar we had done last year. He had
heard about it too late to attend live, but when he emailed
me about a recording, I told him to stand by as it was
going to be available soon.
Apparently, when we announced the availability of the audio
file to our readers, he missed it. And in the process he
felt that we had not followed through. It was perceived as
a small breech of trust--but enough to cause a seed of
doubt. I was glad for the opportunity to clear it up.
There was another event that occurred this week that
further showed me just how careful you have to be when you
do not yet have a relationship of trust.
One of our new members related to me that she was
disappointed in a couple of things. It seems that during
our Open House Conference call, I had stated there would be
time for some questions and answers. And there were via the
webcast. Participants could-- and did--send in questions
which we answered. But I forgot to leave a Q&A time for
those on the telephone. Once again, my error caused doubt
in her mind.
And this same person was troubled that a link sent to her
was not hot-linked and seemingly invalid. We now had two
strikes against us.
These are two of my friend's experiences about trust and
building your business. We have experienced similar things
in our business. The connection to my class about diversity
and pluralism comes in when we look at what the value of
relationships is in different countries. The term created
by Trompenaars & Hamptden-Turner talks about specific
versus diffuse cultures. They say:
In specific cultures a manager segregates out the tasks
relationship he or she has with subordinates and insulates
this from other dealings. In diffuse cultures the life
space and everything that happens in it permeates
everything. If you would draw this difference in a graphic,
a specific representative of a culture would have a
relatively small core in the center of a circle that
represents his or her private life. That's the area they
would keep away form others and don't talk much about,
other then with very close friends, spouses and family
members. All the rest of the circle would be considered the
public life, which is divided into a number of parts. Each
part has relationships but they don't really impact the
inner core and relationships can exist in each part of the
public life without touching or influencing each other.
If you drew the same circle (same size) for a member of a
diffuse culture, the vast majority of the inner area of the
circle would be considered the private life. Just a very
small ring on the outside is public life. That causes
almost every aspect of life to influence both public and
private life.
As you might imagine, if a person form a specific culture
meets or interacts with a person of a diffuse culture, the
private life of the diffuse culture person is almost always
touched. That makes the relationship much different. If one
doesn't know about these differences, mistakes are easily
made and people can get hurt, not only physically, but also
emotionally. Trust can get broken. The stories Michael
Angier was referring to are more for people of the specific
type, where the facts determine the relationship that
forms. With people form diffuse cultures, you need to form
the relationship first and then these small hick-ups don't
play a huge role in maintaining trust.
In the book an interesting experiment is described. Workers
in different countries are asked if they would help to
paint their bosses house. People form the USA, UK,
Switzerland, and most northern European countries said
"No". These are the areas in the worlds considered to be of
a specific culture. People form diffuse cultures, like
China, Nepal, and several African countries (to name a few)
would actually paint their bosses house. They see this as
part of the relationship and commitment to their work, the
company and the boss as a person. It touches their personal
life and standing. They also trust that their help will be
seen as a positive thing when their work at their employer
is evaluated.
A funny ting about this test was the fact that 71% of
Japanese respondents said they wouldn't paint their bosses
house, even though they are considered part of a diffuse
culture. The researchers went back to the Japanese
participants in the survey and asked them why they answered
the way they did. The surprising (and funny) reply was:
"Houses in Japan are never painted" - just showing that you
need to be careful what you are asking to gain empirical
data. In reality they would probably do it if it would be
something that could realistically happen. Japanese workers
are famous for their loyalty to country, company, and
authorities. That makes developing relationships so much
more important, especially in diffuse cultures.
In summary, trust is a very important thing in every
culture. We need to realize what environment we are in to
know what we should and shouldn't do. This will also allow
us to predict the consequences. Michael Angier wouldn't
loose or almost loose a client because he didn't announce a
posting or article, or didn't allow for some Q&A sessions
in a diffuse culture. Those that tune in and listen to him
would have developed a trusting relationship to him before
they would every spend considerable time in a tele-seminar.
What his American clients, coming from a specific culture
deemed a failure of trust or a strike against him would be
forgiven because he probably had done many many more
important things to gain the trust of his listeners and
participants.
Small mistakes can drive people away and we all want to
avoid them. When dealing with different cultures, being
aware of how trust is build and how it can be lost is
equally important if we want to be successful, especially
in a more and more global marketplace.
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Axel Meierhoefer is a published author, educator, coach,
consultant, and the founder of Axel Meierhoefer Consulting
LLC (AMC LLC). His motto is" Helping others help themselves
achieve success". If you like to take a free test
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