The first word that comes to mind is - "insecure" - and
needing a friend. It's hidden but deep down inside that
mean spirited person, you can hear the BIG cry of fear and
aloneness to the core.
Back in my school days, even at the office, I don't recall
any bullying challenges. Maybe I've just forgotten but
don't think that's the case. Few of my friends had such
problems with someone being BAD or taking advantage of the
situation. Most of us just were supportive of each other
and no one dared to challenge any of us.
All of that sounds really good.... we were tough and no one
bothereed us. However, maybe that's not the situation at
all. Actually, times have changed in the school system,
even at the office. Boldness is on the rise. Bullies have
risen to the surface where none existed before.
On the other hand, you cannot allow "fear" to be your
guiding star as you encounter others in the marketplace.
School? Office? Plant? In the Mall parking lot? Inside
the Mall? Gas station? Likely places to run into the
"bullies" of today.
Honesty is not the same as before. Integrity is not what
it used to be. Value systems have changed. It's sad but
true in far too many areas of life that we have lost
direction in how to live our lives as good citizens,
responsible, trustworthy.
What's happened? Value systems seem to be screwed up for
some. Then pride shows it's ugly head. Respect of adults
and peers seems lost. Family values. Parents who care is
troubling in many neighborhoods. Many Teachers who take
pride in their work are lost in trying to keep classroom
peace.
You and I cannot vouch or take responsibility for the world
or those around us.... only for ourselves. It's up to us to
be the leaders - a guiding light - to show others what life
is all about and how to live.
We must step up without intimidation or fear. Look those
you encounter in the eye with confidence. Kind words and
good thoughts will go a long way toward difusing conflicts
with others, especially the bully.
Bullies are more afraid than you are. Stand your ground
and let them know where you stand. Walk with your head
held high with a spark in your step. You can difuse most
bullies simply by letting them know they can not intimidate
you.!
Have you noticed? Most bullies are seldom alone but have
their "like-kind" buddies along for protection should they
encounter a challenge from someone like you or your
friends. Few bullies are loners as they seek their prey but
have "friends" along "just in case" things don't go as
planned.
Over the years, I've seen many bullies back down when they
meet the guy/gal with determination and those who refuse to
be intimidated by their antics of fear or attempts to
control classmates.
Believe in the power of intention. Few people will get in
your way when they understand you are focused and directed
toward a specific goal. Keep up the good fight for the
right to be the best you can be in all areas of life.
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Don Monteith spent 32 years as co-owner of several
franchises and a personnel/staffing business. Every year,
his firm placed hundreds of job candidates in their dream
job. Today, Don shares his business and career expertise
through published articles and his newest websites on the
Internet. Lots of FREE ideas - suggestions - ready for your
perusal and study.
http://www.HowToGetYourDreamJob.com
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